Where it happened: My apartment
Langauge: English
Sex: Male
Rating: 6
Category: Straight
My dear Ashe,
Bless you. You are the kind of girl I would hope to meet and marry. I already have a wonderful wife of my own so don’t worry.
Your goals to wait until you’re 25 and after you are married are worthy and they are sufficient for now. As years go by, you will need to refine your goals. Only realistic goals are sustainable but, none-the-less, goals are essential to a happy life.
My for impulse was to suggest goals but those are mine and you already have yours. Let me instead look at some of the elements of YOUR goals.
Waiting until you’re age 25:
Not bad but a bit arbitrary. A partner who is just right is a treasure for your whole life. Love is where you find it and it will be tough to pass up when a really great man comes into your life. At age 18, you probably will be best to do so with regret. At age 24, you definitely need to consider making a commitment to him. One thing is for sure is that marriages at age 25 have far better odds of succeeding than marriages at age 18.
Rather than set a definite age of 25, perhaps consider looking at the conditions that accompany that age: Most people are independent and supporting themselves. Living on your own and finding out who and what you are sure helps when forming a partnership. Loving means commitment and while intentions might be fervently sincere, there is nothing like having the resources to carry through on those commitments. Refine your thoughts on what it means to be 25—as a byproduct, you will set goals for yourself on becoming a competent 25-year-old.
Waiting until marriage:
While it isn’t my choice, I acknowledge yours. You and I do agree that commitment and taking responsibility for your partner’s welfare is essential before engaging in sexual activity. One idea to think about: Sexual pleasure creates emotional bonding for people who haven’t turned that ability off within themselves. Ask yourself if bonding yourself to a partner you are considering whether the emotional bond would be an asset or a liability.
Avoiding guilt:
A smart shopper doesn’t overpay. Don’t overpay for pleasure. Pay up front by earning adult rights and keep the costs affordable.
Not having a baby out of wedlock:
Good for you! One thing that seems to be omitted in these debates is that babies have rights too. One right that I think babies have is to be born within a marriage and to be raised by both a father and a mother. Babies have a right to be born into a situation where there are resources for the parents to fulfill their commitments to the baby. Don’t take ever take chances in creating a baby that is “inconvenient.” (Never mind your trivial typo, your thoughts are 100 percent solid.)
Being just like your parents:
Were your parents perfect? Identify what they did right and follow their example. Identify their mistakes and learn from them. It does sound like they did a pretty good job with you.
Rejecting irresponsible pleasure:
Pleasure that is earned is a fine thing. Pleasure without responsibility is—well—irresponsible and there are conseguences that follow. Take care of business and then have a party !
Enjoy your life, Ashe. You seem to be one fine lady.
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