Where it happened: his dorm room
Langauge: English
Sex: Female
Rating: 6
Category: Straight
A lot of people had really bad “first times” but that was not the case for me. I believe this is because we were deeply in love and extremely responsible. I was also a reasonable age when I lost my virginity–not 15 or under when you aren’t really that sure of your feelings and your body.
So, Jake and I met my freshman year of college and hit it off right away. Within just a few weeks we were dating. I could tell right away that the relationship would be lasting and meaningful because Jake was an amazing guy and I could tell that he felt the same way about me. Though Jake and I had both had some pretty serious relationships in the past (only pretty serious because they were “high school” serious) neither of us had had sex before. Within a month of dating him, I told him that I loved him (and he told me that he loved me) and he also said that he wanted to make love to me, but not yet. I was totally feeling the same way. We both knew that we wanted to be each other’s “first” but that one month into the realtionship was too soon. We often spent the nights in each others rooms but didn’t necessarily “do anything” other than obviously cuddling. At about three of four months into our relationship we both got the feeling that we were “ready”. However, we wanted to make absolute sure that the conditions were perfect: we didn’t want his roommate to be there, even though the room was a 2-bedroom suite. We also wanted it to be a weekend since we wanted to spend the whole night together and not have to worry about rushing to class in the morning. So, strangely enough, we actually set a date of a time that looked good. We set the date 2 or 3 weeks in advance. However, that same weekend, some obstacle feel through (his roommate unexpectly left or something) and we found ourselves in his room going to bed together. We were lying in bed, but not falling asleep, and he said, “wait, are you ready tonight?” And I was VERY ready. So, we got a condom from a box he had bought in advance (for any situation that might occur like this one) and he put it on. We kissed and lay together naked turning each other on. He was on top of me (traditional virginity-losing position) and I guided his penis inside me. The entry hurt a little bit so I told him to go slowly and to wait when pushing made it worse. However, within seconds he was completely inside and the pain was COMPLETELY gone. Everything from there on after felt perfect and wonderful. We both felt this strong love connection between each other at that moment. Since we were both so excited, we both came pretty quickly, me just before him. The intercourse itself was probably less than five minutes. I realized only afterwards that I had bled a lot because it was my first time. I was surprised since there had been so little pain. I thought that surely my hymen had broken at some earlier time with tampons or something because the pain was so small. I think I had just avoided the pain so much because my body was ready and because I was very emotionally ready. I bled for the entire next day, but once again, there was no pain.
Jake and I are still dating and going strong. However, even if we broke up in the future (i.e., didn’t get married–which I’m not going to think about until we’re both at least done with college!) I would still never regret my first time, as so many people seem to do.
My opinion is that your first time (and preferably every time) you should be in love. For girls, it makes sense even just on the pain/not pain level. But I don’t believe in double standards. I think it makes sense for everyone to be in love their first time because when people get caught up in the moment they don’t know how they’re going to view the experience afterwards. Whether you believe it or not, sex is an extremely emotional thing. I’m not so conservative that I believe you have to be married first (obviously…) but waiting is definitely a good thing! You never get a second chance at your first time.
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