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Age when it happend: 17
Where it happened: his bedroom
Langauge: English
Sex: Female
Rating: 4
Category: Straight

There is a commandment in the Bible that says something about not coveting another man’s wife or ox or cattle or any OTHER chattel. The symbolism of a father walking his daughter down the aisle to give her in marriage to the groom is another example of leftovers from a time when men had property rights in women.

I felt bad about giving my virginity “away” to a boy I loved very much and thought I was going to marry. He gave me an choice to come across or we were through. I decided that I wanted to marry him so I agreed to let him “have me.”

We did it in his bedroom one afternoon after school. He tried to be gentle but I guess he didn’t know how. It was hurt but I knew it was supposed to hurt the first time so I put up with the hurt. I knew I wasn’t very good at it because all I could think of was for him to finish and get it over with. When he got his satisfaction, there was only ten minutes before his mother came home from work so I had to jam some toilet paper into me as I dressed and get out. He should have walked me home at least but he didn’t.

We tried to do it in his car on our Fri nite date but I was too sore and we didn’t get him into me at all. He broke up with me and said I was no good at sex. I really regret giving in to him. Looking back on it I guess I wasn’t very good because I was lying all still and stiff because it hurt.

What I want to say to FF in the last story is that this B— S— about giving your virginity away is outdated. Your body belongs to you and there is nothing you can give away unless it is like a kidney donation or something like that. Did you give anything away the first time you were on an airplane? Did you give anything away the first time you kissed a boy? Did you give anything away when you got your first real job with regular hours and a set paycheck every week? Of course not! ! !

I am engaged now to a wonderful man who was willing to wait until marriage to have sex. I told him about my first time but he didn’t want to hear it saying it was my business what I did before we met. I told him anyway and he didn’t know what to say and at first I thought I had made a big mistake. I didn’t make a mistake because he said there was something wrong with this idea of making a big deal about marriage.

On our next date, he said he went to see his minister and his minister told him about this business of property rights men used to have over women. He also said most men who want virgin brides are afraid of comparisons being made. My fiance said that he doesn’t have a tough act to follow so it doesn’t matter if he is a beginner.

I was afraid that something was wrong with me so I told my fiance that I really wanted to sleep with him before we got married. He said he would have to think about it. He came back and said his minister told him to do it right and go away with me for a weekend. He also gave him a bunch of other suggestions that I won’t go into because that is private. I just want to say that it was the most wonderful weekend of my life so far even though neither one of us were very good at it. We are getting better at it and I know my wedding and honeymoon will be even better.

Life is a whole series of first times and things in sex are a whole series of first times too. Being willing to compromise and have sex with me before marriage was a very loving thing of my future husband to do. It would hurt much more badly if we broke our engagement. I think part of it is the sex and part of it is I now know just how special my man is.

I think FF should treat this as another case of a relationship not working out. I will point out that she seems to have had a better first time than I did. The main thing is that you should treat sex as something special but that doesn’t mean you can’t make a mistake now and then. After all we make mistakes in other things in life, why not sex.

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